Have you ever noticed that when you take on a new goal, that little voice in your head will immediately kick in and start telling you all the reasons why you can't have what you want? Whether it's finding a new course to take, losing those last 10 pounds, improving the quality of your relationship or getting out of debt, the Inner Critic that lives within each of us really seems to turn up the volume.

As a coach, I'm privileged to be part of a process where my clients create a new and exciting vision for their lives and take action towards it. The excitement is palpable as they connect with what's truly important to them. But often they'll hit what I call, the "How Hurdle". "How will I do that?" or "How can I get myself from here to there?" The excitement starts to deflate as they focus on not knowing the clear answers to the "How" Hurdle.

After you separate or divorce, the most important tool you have at your disposal is your mindset. What are you thinking? What are you telling yourself? Is your goal to "survive" your divorce? Do you feel like you're a failure or "damaged goods"? Your thoughts have a powerful impact on your reality.

For me and my three school-age children, I decided that to simply "survive" my divorce would be setting the bar way too low.

Flying halfway around the world to someplace I'd never been before was quite an adventure. A different culture, a different alphabet, foreign cuisine, unknown sights and sounds awaited me. Having an adventure is so fun, I thought. Why don't we bring more of that explorer spirit of curiosity with us in our daily life? What would our life be like if we treated all of it as one big adventure, and not just leave that sense of wonder and excitement to the few weeks of the year when we may travel to some new destination? When set off for a travel adventure of some kind, it strikes me that there are some basic strategies that we naturally adopt.

I recently had the pleasure of participating in a workshop in Los Angeles with 150 others who, like myself, want to hone their skills as a trainer. One of our instructors was Les Brown. I had heard this inspirational man speak before, but never had the opportunity to meet him in person.

His love, passion and energy filled each of us with possibility.

There's nothing like getting divorced to kick up a whole new dimension of fear. Will I be alright? Will my children grow up emotionally scarred from my relationship breakdown? Will I be able to cope financially? Am I doomed to be single? What if my next relationship tanks too? Underlying these questions is fear.

Some of this fear is primal and wired into your neurological system.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Take a moment right now to look around your home environment. What does it look like to you and how does it feel? Do you feel a sense of calm and order, or is there a sense of chaos and frenzy in your space? It's important that we consider the design of our physical space as a key ingredient in how we set ourselves up to succeed in our life's ambitions.

What is the Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like." What you focus your attention on expands. Your thoughts are energy, and create a vibration which can be either positive or negative.

Let's look at an example. Think of a day when you woke up feeling overwhelmed at what's on your plate. You might have a job to do, children to feed, an ex to deal with, lawyers to meet with.

In this fast-paced society, there's so much competing for our attention and energy. Jobs, children, relationships, health, aging parents, worthy community causes - how do we keep afloat in these turbulent waters? Often our "to do" lists are an anchor that help us to keep our focus. As long as we're crossing off things on our list, that means we're productive, successful and presumably happy, doesn't it? Well it may mean that we're productive, but we may not feel happy or satisfied.

As I waited for my appointment at the fracture clinic, a number of worries consumed me. I can't drive for six weeks. How will I see the Great Wall of China with an air boot and a cane? I decided to take hold of my emotional state by asking myself an important question, "What is the possible gift of this situation?" The answer came straight back. "Learn to ask for what you need.